New Release: 'I Don't Understand'
- Jan 15
- 2 min read
Updated: Jan 23
This song came from a pretty naive place.
New Release: 'I Don't Understand' is out now.
I really believed for a long time that love would be enough. If you love someone hard enough, if they’re your best friend, if you feel safe with them, everything else would just work itself out.
That’s what I thought . .
Of course, real life doesn’t work that way.
Why Love Isn't Enough in Real Life
Finances, showing up when someone needs you, actually hearing what the other person is feeling, communicating when things start to feel off . . love is beautiful, but it doesn’t automatically handle those parts. You have to talk. You have to say what you need. You have to ask. You have to do the things, and if you don’t, small distances grow into big ones fast.
The line that keeps coming back in the chorus of I Don't Understand is, “the reason we’re here again,” isn’t about pointing fingers. It’s about finally seeing that waiting for someone to magically understand what you haven’t said out loud almost never works. Your partner can’t respond to something they don’t know. They can’t meet a need you’ve never named.
I used to let things sit inside me way too long. I’d feel the distance growing and still stay quiet because I was scared of rocking the boat. Then one day it would all come out at once and feel nuclear to the other person. That’s on me. I’m learning that showing up means opening your mouth even when it feels risky. Saying how you feel. Asking for what you need. No matter how afraid you are.
The “Still Here” Perspective
I’ve learned I can only control me. I can’t make anyone try, I can’t make anyone care, and I definitely can’t make someone see what I see if the communication isn’t there to begin with. It’s a hard lesson: love without a plan, without stability, and without mutual respect eventually runs out of road. Love just isn't enough.
I’ve never stopped believing the connection is worth the effort. I’m realizing it takes much more than just “feeling” something to make a life work . . it takes showing up and being honest about the foundation, no matter how difficult that is.
If you’ve ever looked across the room at someone you love and quietly wondered why you keep ending up in the same place, especially when you adore them, I Don't Understand is for you.
Give it a listen wherever you stream music.